Whenever men seem to get to the point in a conversation with a woman where it reaches an awkward silence – something that anyone who has time in the dating world knows, happens quite often – they always resort to the same style of conversation: Rapid-fire interrogation. These quick questions about the woman’s life (“What school did you go to?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”) never lead anywhere, usually causing the woman to be bored and looking for the next topic of conversation.
Instead of falling into that trap when talking to women, here are 6 different conversation topics you can use to keep the awkward silences to a minimum while keeping the excitement of the conversation to a maximum.
1. Speak your passions
More than anything else, pushing a conversation topic in the direction of your own passion is the best way to keep a conversation going. Instead of thinking too much about trying to maintain the conversation, by talking about your own passions you can just begin to have fun and show your excitement about the topic at hand. This will not only show your own intelligence – since you’re talking about your passion, you’ll automatically know about it – but also give the woman a glimpse into your own emotion and excitement. Women are always looking for this in a man.
In the same way, if the woman begins talking about her own passion, ask her about it even if it’s not your own passion. This will allow her to feel excited while talking to you (something that is never a bad thing) and give her a chance to talk about herself, offering clues as to her personality that you can come back to later on in the conversation.
2. Observe your surroundings
Something I always enjoy doing when I’m talking to a woman at a bar is observing the surrounding people with her and making stories about everyone. This will not only show your creative side, but also allow you to get a grasp of her sense of humor, something that will help with future conversations later on in the night.
3. Your youth
Childhood is a time that stays with everyone forever and something we all can relate to, so speaking about your own experiences at a child not only allows her a window into your own soul, but also gives her a chance to relate with some of her own experiences. Feel free to go down this path of reminiscing to open up the topic of conversation.
4. Travel talk
While everyone loves to talk about travel, the important thing to keep in mind here is to get her to talk about travel, not you. You don’t want to look like you’re showing off or some off as someone trying too hard. Instead, use this as an opportunity to learn more about her beliefs, feelings, cultural awareness, etc.
5. Self-analysis
When talking about anything, whether it be your passions or your childhood, it is important to shade any story in a way where you “learn something from it”. This will once again give you an opportunity to show your depth of thought while also opening up various streams of conversation topics by adding an extra layer of subject matter to the conversation at hand.
6. Pop culture
If you need a conversation placeholder – something to keep the conversation from stumbling into an awkward silence without resorting to that interrogation mode – then feel free to discuss about the various pop culture things that are going on at the time. But make sure not to stay on this topic too long, or she will quickly become bored with it. And you.
by Bobby Rio, author of Make Small Talk Sexy
by Bobby Rio, author of Make Small Talk Sexy
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