How to Flirt With Women and Make Her Convinced You Are the ONE

Flirting with women is all about having fun and making the best impression on a woman that you can make. If you want to be able to flirt with a woman and convince her that you are the “one" for her, then you have to make sure that you create chemistry with her. It's not just about running some lines on a woman and hoping that she bites. You have to consciously know what you are doing and what will make her feel like you are the guy that she cannot pass up.

Here are some flirting tips for guys that should make her feel this way about you:

1. Keep a warm and natural smile on your face.

You don't want to appear too rigid with a woman, not if you want to make her feel relaxed when she is with you. You also don't want to make it look like you are cheesin’ for no reason, either. That would be a dead give away that you think she is above you, and really no one is above anyone. You want to make her feel comfortable, but also to make the whole experience seem as natural as you can.

2. Get close to her and use kino as a means to build attraction.

When you come into close contact with a woman, you are going to already have a feeling of a close connection and chemistry with her. Most people do not allow someone that they feel no chemistry at all with get too close to them, and as long as she does not pull away, then that is a good sign for you. Now, it's time to use kino (physical touch) as a way to increase that feeling of closeness and chemistry and build it into more intense attraction with her.

3. Make her feel like it is just YOU and HER.

When you give a woman the feeling that it is just you and her, no matter how crowded the room might be, the bond it creates is pretty strong and you can easily make her feel like she is being swept off of her feet. This is a good thing. No, check it, this is a VERY good thing. You want to make her feel like in this bog old world, it's just the two of you. That is how you will make a very STRONG intimate connection with a woman.

by C. Tyler

10 Mistakes Men Make When Talking to Women

1) Not Recognizing her Safety Level

A mistake many men make when they talk to women is not recognizing a woman’s natural need to feel safe and comfortable. Since women are usually not as strong physically as men, it puts them in a more vulnerable position when it comes to dealing with strangers they meet. So naturally, they have a natural barrier or “bitch shield” that protects them from potential harm.

Many men get upset because they think “hot” women act “bitchy” around strangers. Well, try walking down the street as a 5’6″, 120 pounds girl in high heels and miniskirt with bigger men leering at you from all angles. See if you’d still want to have that small talk with every guy who approaches you.

Probably not!

So how can you make a woman feel safe when you’re talking to her for the first time? Here are a few ideas:

• Be introduced by a third party
• Dress and groom yourself well
• Be VERY good at something so that you have SOME social proof
• Have strong, confident body language
• Have good eye contact
• Be congruent with your actions
• Avoid sensitive topics
• Talk about things she’d enjoy talking about
• Let her see you interact with other women
• Be the life of the party (once again, social proof)
• Don’t have any “strange” body language or behaviour
• Approach a woman when she’s in a group first

2) Acting Like She’s a Goddess

Remember my theories on “up-dating”, “down-dating”, and “romantic respect”> Most people want to date someone who’s the “best” person they can get. (“Best” doesn’t necessarily have to be about money or looks. It can be about values, interests, and beliefs too.) So if you start treating a woman like she’s a Goddess and better than you as soon as you meet her, OF COURSE she’s not going to be very interested in you!

3) Not Being Congruent With Your Objectives

Many men make the mistake of acting incongruent when they meet a woman they like. For example, they may

approach a woman because they want to date her, but they will “pretend” all they want is to be a friend. Some guys are so great at doing this that they will lie to themselves and their friends about their true intentions. They will say they are not interested…but secretly hope that the girl will somehow start chasing after them. (This way, they won’t be any chances of rejection or embarrassment!)

My opinion is that you should search for your feelings and be honest with yourself. If you are talking to a woman because you want to get into her pants, at least be bold and admit it to yourself. Go flirt with her and let it be known through your eye contact that you find her very attractive. Don’t try to hide it. She’ll either flirt back or she won’t.

If you just want to be friends, then act like a friend. If mutual feelings start developing, then start flirting. But don’t pretend you are not interested in a woman while trying to impress her at the same time. It’s incongruent.

4) Trying To Impress Her

Trying to impress a woman is probably the worst way to get her to like you. Don’t suck up to her. Don’t tell her about how much money you make or what restaurants you go to. Don’t tell her what kind of car you drive. The only way you should impress her is by letting her observe how confident, calm, and aloof you act in every situation. If there’s actual substance to you, she’ll see it. And if she likes that substance, she will chase after it and not want to let go. Be yourself and let her come to you. If you can’t do that be being who you are, then work on yourself until you can be congruent with yourself and women will still come to you. (Most of the time, all it takes will be a few attitude adjustments. Your actions, behaviour, and body language will adjust naturally!)

5) Thinking Complaining Makes Yourself Look Better

Another mistake many men make is to think that complaining or being negative can make them seem more intelligent. But in reality, most of the time, women don’t care about the things you want to complain about, be it your boss, your car, or the economy.

6) Not Having Confident Body Language

Yes, people DO judge you by your body language. So be a man and have bold, confident body language. Take up space. Have a presence – even if you are quiet. If you need help in this area because you are uncomfortable with your body, workout at the the gym to build muscles and take some Pilates classes to have better posture. You can even take some stage acting training.

7) Not Knowing what Interests Her

A reader who works as a high-class escorts once told me that great call girls know how to spend the first 20 minutes of the “hour” just observing, asking questions, and listening to a client so that they know exactly what he is really looking for. 

While you may not agree with my reader’s choice of profession, what she said is actually very good advice. After all, it is a an escort’s job to connect and communicate with a diversity of men with whom they may find NOTHING in common…all within a timeframe of 20 minutes. So how they do it? By listening, observing, and guiding the conversationa carefully. 

Make sure you learn about a girl by observing her clothes, bags, and body language before you approach her. And while you’re talking to her, make sure you ask questions and use active listening to find out what interests them the most. Then tell them what they want to hear. (Note: This does not have to be unethical. If a girl is after the wrong things, then she is not the kind of woman you want to date anyway.)

8) Not Realizing Tests are Just Tests

Many men do not realize that women will often throw little verbal tests at them to see if they are consistent. For example, they may insult you slightly to see how you react. Women are great at guessing based on their emotions instead of their logic, so make sure you don’t let these little verbal games take away your confidence!

9) Being Too Afraid to Butt Heads

This is an extension of the last mistake. Many guys are too afraid to disagree with women or to butt head with them directly. Wrong. It’s better to realize you crash and burn than to agree with a woman just for the sake of agreeing with her. If you can’t even be congruent with your own beliefs, how can you expect her to respect and admire you?

10) Not Knowing When to Stop

Finally, you should know when the stop a conversation no matter how great it’s going. Always end up a conversation early before the energy drops too low – unless you are sure you can take things to the next level right away. 

With that said, I’m going to end my article right here. (If you want more, you’ll have to buy my “Smart Dating Course“!)

by Marius P

Romantic Dating Tips: How to be Romantic

Romance is at the heart of any dating experience. If you don't consider yourself romantic then you are wrong. I don't know of anyone on this planet who doesn't have the ability to fall in love. Therefore if you can fall in love, you can be romantic too. Romance is not in the grand gestures , it is in the small details. Women will often say that it is the small things that matter. The small gestures but it is down to both men and women to start being romantic. It is a two-way process and both parties get an immense amount of pleasure from showing they care about someone. Yes we would all love to have a romantic picnic on a deserted Caribbean beach with the person of our dreams but romance begins closer to home with tips such as these:

• Understand what romance means and why it is important and learn what romantic aspects there are to your own character. No one has a heart made of stone, however tough their exterior.
• Understand that romance is not the sole domain of women and that men who are romantic are far more successful when dating
• Romance has nothing whatsoever to do with masculinity. In fact, being romantic can enhance your masculinity and reputation with girls.
• Not all women are naturally romantic either but that doesn't have to be the case.
• The key to being romantic is thoughtfulness. So start being a little less thoughtless and selfish.
• Communicate with your partner on every level and anticipate their desires and needs.
• Look at your partner when they are talking and hold their gaze
• Learn that mood, location, situation and ambience can heighten romance with dramatic effect
• Phone just to say hello, I love you and surprise your partner
• Learn to say, I love you and mean it. Don't say it ever, if you don't mean it
• Send them notes and small cards telling them you are thinking of them
• Be spontaneous and do little deeds that show you are thinking about them
• Start going for walks together, whatever the weather
• Put your partner first, particularly as a surprise with a spontaneous trip away
• Think creatively and plan a surprise weekend away
• Buy flowers any time of the year, nice ones not just roses
• Remember birthdays, anniversaries and landmark days such as the day you first met and plan something
• Listen to the clues your partner gives you, such as things they like and books they read and buy little gifts
• Keep being romantic. In a good relationship, romance never ends
• Compromise. Putting yourself first is not romantic.
• Write him/her a letter and let them know that you love them and you mean it. People send far few letters these days. Use good quality stationery too.
• Watch romantic movies together and invest quality time doing the things you share and both enjoy
• Make cards rather than buying them. It shows thought and inspiration.
• Take your partner on a picnic to the park or beach and prepare in advance without involving them. Initiative illustrates romance nicely
• Don't be a cold fish. Learn how to hug, cuddle and make physical contact. Touching without sex is far more romantic but don't always hug without kissing!
• Kiss your date and learn to appreciate the finer qualities of kissing for its own sake
• Dance together when the occasion arises and show them special attention
• Hold hands and do anything make your partner feel close to you
• Hold and hug your partner in bed, especially after sex
• Talk chat and converse about anything and everything
• Allow your partner to breathe and do separate things to heighten the sense of romance when you are together
• If you don't cook dinner for your date, start learning my friend. A surprise dinner with candles is romantic
• Buy small gifts spontaneously that show great thought in what they enjoy. But not too many otherwise it has the opposite effect
• Remember that romance is often about giving of yourself, even if it is simply your precious time when you could have had other plans. Making your partner a priority is vital
• Do things that make you both laugh. Laughter and romance go hand in hand
• Remember that romance is in the small details and does not need to be expensive in any way. I'd rather receive a handmade card any day than an expensive gift
• Anticipate your partner's wishes and desires to show them you are listening to them and that you care
• Expect rightfully that romance is a two-way process though the romance you provide is simply giving of yourself

How to Stop Jealousy in a Relationship

Jealousy has always been a problem in many relationships. That green-eyed monster is always lurking somewhere, ready to cook up some trouble and strain in the relationship. It is important that partners should know how to deal with jealousy and know when to stop it the moment that it tries to affect the relationship.

Jealousy can easily destroy an relationship. All means should be done to stop it whenever such feelings crop up. One of the best ways to stop jealousy is by better communication between partners. Better communications would allow both man and woman to talk about what would make them jealous and understanding each one better.

Communication would also help partners establish guidelines in the relationship that would determine what would be acceptable and unacceptable behavior. This would help a lot in taking the uncertainties away that usually develop into jealousy in most relationships.

Jealousy may come into a relationship by way of suspicion. Being suspicious of your partner would easily tell that you do not trust him or her. And sometimes such suspicions are not based on facts but merely by way of emotions and insecurities.

The best way to stop jealousy is by remaining objective and trying to get to the root of the suspicion rather than make emotions fuel it towards jealousy. And more importantly, trust on your partner will play a big part on stopping jealousy. This is also the part where better communication will help clear things up. Being open and honest about your feelings toward your partner may help put everything into perspective.

When dealing with jealousy, it is also important to seek the help of a friend. Try to have an objective buddy who can tell you what’s right and wrong especially if you feel that you are harboring that green-eyed monster. Sometimes jealousy can make a person become blind to what reality is. It would take an objective friend to tell you if you are already behaving in an irrational manner. An honest friend can always make you realize what is right and if your emotions are just getting the best of you.

Another way to stop jealousy is by building up on self-confidence and self-esteem. Insecurity about oneself can easily lead one to become jealous. If you begin to lack e assurance that your partner is still attracted to you, then you might become an easy prey to jealousy. By just being confident and sure about yourself and your partner would help stop jealousy from becoming a problem in your relationship.

101 Romantic Things To Do With Your Lover

1. Watch the sunset together.

2. Take showers together.

3. Back rubs/massages.

4. Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or w/ blacklight.

5. French Kiss.

6. Hold her w/ hands inside the back of her shirt.

7. Whisper to each other.

8. Cook for each other.

9. Skinny dip.

10. Make out in the rain.

11. Dress each other.

12. Undress each other.

13. Kiss every part of their body.

14. Hold hands.

15. Sleep together. (Actually sleep with each other…not sex)

16. One word…Foreplay

17. Sit and talk in just underwear.

18. Buy gifts for each other.

19. Roses.

20. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you’re together.

21. Wear his clothes.

22. Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.

23. Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.

24. Kiss at every chance you get.

25. Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.

26. Kinky is bad…Blindfolds are good.

27. Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper I love you.

28. Bubble baths.

29. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

30. Make love.

31. Write poetry for each other.

32. Kiss/smell her hair.

33. Hugs are the universal medicine.

34. Say I love you, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

35. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.

36. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie.

37. Spend every second possible together.

38. Tell her that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. And mean it.

39. Look into each other’s eyes.

40. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.

41. Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.

42. When in public, only flirt w/ each other.

43. Walk behind her and put your hands in her front pockets.

44. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.

45. Clothes are no fun.

46. Buy her a ring.

47. Keep one of her bras somewhere where you see it everyday.

48. Sing to each other.

49. Read to each other.

50. PDA = Public Display of Affection.

51. Take advantage of any time alone together.

52. Tell her about how you answered every question in math with her name.

53. Draw. (If you can)

54. Let her sit on your lap.

55. Go hiking and camp out together in the woods or on a mountain.

56. Lips were made for kissing.
So were eyes, and fingers, and cheeks, and collarbones, and hands, and ears.

57. Kiss her stomach.

58. Always hold her around her hips/sides.

59. Guys like half-shirts.

60. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

61. Spaghetti… (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

62. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.

63. Unless you can feel their hear beating, you aren’t close enough.

64. Dance together.

65. Sit in front of a roaring fire and make out/make love.

66. I love the way a girl looks right after she’s fallen asleep with her head in my lap.

67. Carry her to bed.

68. Waterbeds are fun.

69. You figure it out.

70. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

71. Break every one of your parent’s relationship rules for them.

72. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes

73. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.

74. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.

75. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.

76. Ride your bike 8 miles just to see them for a few hours.

77. Ride home and call them.

78. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

79. Somehow incorporate them into any kind of religion or worship you have.

80. Be Prince Charming to her parents. (Brownie Points)

81. Act out mutual fantasies together. (Not necessarily sexual)

82. Brush her hair out of her face for her.

83. Stay up all night to think of 101 ways to be sweet to them.

84. Hang out with his/her friends. (more brownie points)

85. Go to church/pray/worship together.

86. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

87. Cuddle together under a full moon on a clear night.

88. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.

89. Everyone deserves a second chance.

90. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

91. Make sacrifices for each other.

92. Really love each other, or don’t stay together.

93. Write a fictional story about how you met/fell in love, etc. and give it to them.

94. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren’t thinking about them,
and make sure they know it.

95. Love yourself before you love anyone else.

96. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.

97. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.

98. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.

99. Sleep naked together.

100. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

101. Never forget the kiss goodnight. And always remember to say, "Sweet dreams."

How Do I Love Thee?

by : Elizabeth Barrett Browning

How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day's
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints - I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!
-and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

The Passionate Shepherd To His Love

by : Christopher Marlowe

Come live with me and be my love,
And we will all the pleasures prove
That valleys, groves, hills, and fields,
Woods, or steepy mountain yields.
And we will sit upon the rocks,
Seeing the shepherds feed their flocks,
By shallow rivers to whose falls
Melodious birds sing madrigals.

And I will make thee beds of roses
And a thousand fragrant posies,
A cap of flowers, and a kirtle
Embroidered all with leaves of myrtle

A gown made of the finest wool,
Which from our pretty lambs we pull;
Fair lined slippers for the cold,
With buckles of the purest gold:

A belt of straw and ivy buds,
With coral clasps and amber studs;
And if these pleasures may thee move,
Come live with me and be my love.

The shepherd swains shall dance and sing
For thy delight each May morning;
If these delights thy mind may move,
Then live with me and be my love.